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Friday, August 2, 2013

Red String of Fate


"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet,
regardless of time, place, or circumstance.
The thread may stretch or tangle,
but it will never break."
- an ancient Chinese belief

Beautiful isn't it? The way we could imagine that somewhere out there, we are meant for someone. Contrary to what people may usually think, being destined to be with someone doesn't automatically mean romantically. And this old Chinese belief proves that. It simply means that someone out there is meant to be your friend, to be your companion. It means that no matter the distance or the things you do, you will meet at a certain time when fate decides it. It's nice to think that everything you do has a reason. That the people you meet, the things that have happened to you whether good or bad, the experiences you went through is part of some thought of plan. It makes you think of the butterfly effect. That one thing you do could affect so many things. A smile could make someone's day, or a spiteful conversation could send someone into a depression. Come to think of it, we really are connected to each other for some reason. This makes you think about what you do. It makes you feel conscious about what you say or do to people because one mistake could ruin someone's life. 

Going over to the romantic side of this belief (as I am a hopeless romantic), this belief is the Chinese version of "soul mates". Nowadays, people rarely do believe in it. Especially with all the overuse of the word "love" in the wrong way. The problem with us humans is that we settle on what is given and we make the abnormal things normal. For example the fact that more and more marriages fail- people nowadays think its a norm. No one ever looks outside the box and sees two people who were afraid to try harder. Another example is that most people settle for what is there. Call me a sappy romantic, but why do you settle for sparks when you can have fireworks? Why settle for someone you can live with rather than a person you can't live without? These two problems can be solved by one thing: take a chance. Despite what movies and books tell you, no one really dares to take a chance unless life threatens you to. 

That's the main problem of humanity. Everyone is afraid of being rejected, of being humiliated  of being seen as an outcast. Well you know what? I've lived my whole life taking chances. I take things as they go, following my gut the whole way. I've been bruised too many times and I've got the scars to show it. But no matter what, you've just got to keep going. Like Dory said in Finding Nemo, you've got to keep swimming. The world is vast ocean. And if the Chinese knew their beliefs, no matter how far you go, the person you're bound to be with will turn up sooner or later. 

Do you know the cute little story behind the "Red String of Fate"? There was a kid who saw an old man. The old man said that there was a red string that connected people who were meant to be. The kid, as naive as he was, said that he was never getting married. The old man brought the kid to a small village and pointed towards a girl whom the kid was destined to be with. The boy threw a rock at the poor girl and ran away. A few years later, the boy was going to get into an arranged marriage. The night before the marriage, he asked to see the woman's face. He saw that she was beautiful, but she was hiding something. She then revealed that she had a scar on her face because a rock hit her face when she was a kid. 

Fate can be a real troublemaker  It can make or break a person. But like a parent, it knows your best interests. Sooner or later you'd see your life unfold, and piece by piece you'd see that everything happened for a reason. Not everything may be explained now, but someday it will be. Till then learn to take a chance. You'll never know where you'd find yourself. :)

21 comments:

  1. We create or make our own FATE, I am a huge believer of that. But sometimes, we can't help but to think that FATE and FORTUNE is playing with our lives. Thanks for sharing the red string of fate mini story. !

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  2. I guess everything we do is bound to make a ripple in our timeline and like the red string of fate, everything happens for a reason.

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    1. in the end everything does make sense doesn't it?

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    2. Yes it does, Everything is much clearer in hindsight.

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  3. I am a believer of FATE but, as what the movie "My Sassy Girl" said, you also have to make your move so FATE can do it's job ;)

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    1. i agree. even if you're destined for greatness, if you sit around, nothing will happen

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  4. Beautifully written post. I love the Red String of Fate! Thanks for sharing!

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  5. I wonder it that applies to me.. haha!

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  6. i believe in controlling our destiny but i believe that fate plays a little part on it. Just on how I married my now fiance, where we both fell in love at first sight 9 years ago. for me that is fate :p

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    1. fate does work in mysterious ways, and we never do know when it would surprisingly introduce us to our soulmate

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  7. Well, I just am a believer of "existentialism" where there is not such thing as bad or good fate.. In all things we made a choice to why we end up on a situation before we meet people or before situations happen. Where in every step we take there is no such thing as a coincidence because we always have reasons to why we do things or we are on a certain location. But I guess that's just me . :)

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  8. Although I love the romantic view of fate, I still try to keep a healthy part of me with the belief that I make my own fate :D

    Kumiko Mae

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    1. we do make our own fate. but to our every action there is a reaction. thus, fate still has something to do in our lives

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  9. Beautifully written. I agree that our destiny is already written but we have been given a some free will also. For example: In your story, if the boy had not thrown the stone, her bride would not got that scar. Basically the destination is written but which road will lead us to our destination, this is in our hands. :)

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  10. Haayy. your post makes me wanna watch a romantic movie like....Serendipity :) Thanks Le-an, love this :)

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